Did you know 50% of all Americans set a New Year’s resolution? That’s pretty amazing!
Wanting to change and better yourself is a beautiful and inspiring thing. What’s not so beautiful and inspiring is that according to researcher Richard Wiseman, 88% of all those resolutions set in America fail. That’s 156 million failed resolutions and disappointed hearts and minds each and every year. “What a mistake – the whole idea around New Year’s resolutions. People aren’t picking specific behaviors, they’re picking abstractions” says B.J. Fogg from Stanford University.
The problem is clear: any abstract goal you have that is not tied to a specific behavior is nearly impossible for your brain to focus on. We also need a real relationship to invest in emotionally and spiritually as we search for the power to overcome or achieve. What we need to stick to our New Year’s resolutions is willpower and a meaningful relationship with Jesus.
Despite popular opinion, willpower is not something we’re born with. “Research suggests that willpower itself is inherently limited, and that our January promises fail in large part because the brain wasn’t built for success.”
That’s where Jesus comes in. Time spent each day in surrender and adoration, super charge your ability to change a behavior or achieve something together. Resolutions made and managed in isolation are doomed to fail.
Just like your bicep has to be trained in order to grow stronger, so does the prefrontal cortex in your brain, as well as your relational muscle. The key is to make sure not to start lifting too heavy, as then we’re bound to drop everything on the floor with your new year’s resolutions. Start small, be specific and be together…